• How to Cope With Isolation and Overcome Loneliness
    Social distancing, lockdown, quarantine… You’re likely wary of terms that have become daily references since the pandemic hit us hard Media, politicians, and medical doctors have implored us to do this and that for our physical safety. But the hidden virus of loneliness and isolation rages on relatively unaddressed. Are you feeling the effects? If so, ...
  • Are You Stockpiling Your Emotions? How Somatic Experiencing Supports Healthy Release
    When someone experiences trauma, their bodies can become trapped in the fight, flight, or freeze mode for years after the event. Essentially, if someone is unable to safely process and release these emotions, they may unconsciously begin “stockpiling” their emotions instead. Trying to manage your emotions internally this way can lead to depression, ...
  • Emotional Health vs. Mental Health: Discover the Real Difference, Part 2
    Envision mental health as the ocean with emotional health being the waves. With that comparison in mind, let’s dig deeper into the key differences. Mental health involves the processing of all the information we encounter. Emotional health is more about the feelings provoked by the data we’ve processed. They are interwoven, very much ...
  • Anxiety Symptoms and Men: Do Men Experience Anxiety Attacks Too?
    Yes, most definitely men experience anxiety and ad anxiety attacks. But you wouldn’t know it. That’s because many men struggle with talking about, let alone admitting that they struggle with anxiety. Also, anxiety symptoms and men, including anxiety attacks, can present differently from women. Both experience anxiety. Yet how they express that anxiety can vary, and, ...
  • The Importance of Touch: Why Pre/Postnatal Massage Is Vital (STWP Blog Post for Shoshana Rosencrantz)
    Therapeutic massage can help almost anyone and in a variety of ways. But for mothers who are expecting or those who have just given birth, massage can be an even more amazing tool.  There’s no denying the old stereotypes that expectant mothers have to deal with as they develop in their pregnancy. Aches and ...
  • Are Remote Work and Loneliness Connected?
    The COVID-19 pandemic has led to a sudden increase in the number of people working remotely. While remote work was already a growing trend, the need to socially distance has given it a big boost. Of course, many people welcome the ability to work from home. It makes life much  more straightforward and reduces ...
  • Emotional Invalidation: A Vicious Form of Manipulation Narcissists Use to Gain Control
    Of all the ways that a narcissist commits emotional abuse, invalidation is one that is particularly harmful. It is a vicious form of manipulation in which you are told that your emotions are not worth the time, energy, or space for consideration. This at the heart of what narcissism is all about. To the narcissist, ...
  • 7 Psychological Strategies to Motivate Employees Who Work from Home
    The COVID-19 pandemic has created a shift in the way so many people work. Even with parts of the country “re-opening”, there are many individuals still working from home. Some businesses have even made a full-time switch with some of their employees, allowing them to keep working remotely.  While there have been studies that ...
  • The Many Different Ways We Grieve, and Why There’s No Single “Right Way” (STWP Blog Post for Kristin Babigian)
    If you think about grief, you will probably come up with a very specific picture in your mind. Some people stereotype grief as an image of overwhelming sadness, tears, and heartbreaking pain. While those are all absolutely valid and true feelings, it is important to recognize that grief does not always appear the ...
  • Finding a Job During COVID-19: Which Industries Are Still Hiring Despite the Pandemic? (STWP Blog Post for David Wachsman)
    The COVID-19 pandemic has not just been devastating to people’s physical and mental health. The economy, in general, has suffered, and many people have lost their jobs due to the pandemic. Leisure and hospitality jobs, as well as the food service industry, have been hit particularly hard. This leaves many people searching for new work ...
  • What is Mindfulness?—How Practicing Being Present Is Beneficial
    Being present sounds great, but sometimes life makes it hard to practice that philosophy. It seems as if everything and everyone is demanding your attention at the same time. There’s no letup or time to take a break at all. Yet, it’s these moments when mindfulness is the most helpful. Mindfulness is not about distancing ...
  • What Are “Bath Salts” and How Do They Impact You?
    Although they sound innocent enough, “bath salts” should never be confused with Epsom salts or products designed to make your bathing experience more relaxing.  If not innocent, however, what are they?  They are a type of recreational synthetic drug. Their name comes from the fact that they were often disguised as actual salts used ...
  • Emotional Health vs. Mental Health: Discover the Real Difference, Part 1
    Everyone gets anxious at times but “anxiety” is a diagnosable disorder. You may feel depressed after a setback but “depression” is also a diagnosable disorder. In psychotherapy, words have precise meanings and these meanings are essential for effective treatment. For example, the terms “mental health” and “emotional health” are often used interchangeably. While ...
  • Tired of Repeating Relationship Patterns? How Individual EFT Therapy Helps
    Interacting with your partner should not feel like the sequel to Groundhog Day.  Of course, we all realize that relationships do have a way of settling into patterns. But the same can be said for how and why you enter into these relationships. Do you meet new people but bring your old patterns with you ...
  • 5 Dating Tips for Those With a History of Trauma
    No matter what type of trauma you’ve been through, it’s unlikely that you’ll recover from it overnight. Some people struggle with the effects of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for years.  If your trauma is the result of destructive or abusive relationships, dating might feel overwhelming. Even if you want to “get out there” and ...
  • Why Validating Your Partner Means So Much (and 3 Ways to Do It Well)
    You obviously want to be nice to your partner. After all, who wants to be in a relationship with a jerk? However, to create a lasting connection, it’s important to validate your partner too. Validating transcends being nice or polite with one another (although they too are important in their own right and shouldn’t ...
  • What Exactly is Self-Care?
    The idea of self-care has become a very popular one in recent years. Moms, especially, tend to be encouraged to practice self-care as a way to manage the multiple demands they face from parenting, work, chores, and so much more. But the phrase extends beyond those who are mothers to others as well. ...
  • Attachment Styles at Work
    When it comes to relationships, you may have heard of attachment styles. In romantic relationships, we form attachments — secure, avoidant-dismissive, or anxious-preoccupied. While we do form these in romantic relationships, we also develop them in other types of relationships. Have you ever considered the type of attachment style that you have at work? Many ...
  • Is Social Media Making You More Anxious?
    If you’ve been feeling more anxious and stressed this year, you probably know you’re not alone. After all, 2020 has been a year that most everyone is ready to say goodbye to. The global COVID pandemic arrived on American shores in early spring and shows no signs of stopping yet. Our lives have changed ...
  • 3 Tips for De-Escalating Arguments in Intimate Relationships
    Every couple argues. Exceedingly happy couples and otherwise have a “perfect” relationship fight from time to time. When arguing is done the right way, it can be healthy for your relationship. It allows you to work through things with your partner and resolve any underlying issues you might be dealing with.  Unfortunately, arguing the ...
  • Emotional Health vs. Mental Health: Discover the Real Difference, Part 3
    After the first two posts in this series, you have a clearer idea of these concepts. They are similar in some ways, very different in others. To repeat the useful comparisons: Mental health is like the ocean, emotional health is the waves. Mental health is your hardware. Emotional health is the software. They ...
  • Navigating Family Conflict: How Can Therapy Help? (STWP Blog Post for Soribel Martinez)
    Conflict within the family is never ideal. Whether it’s small outbursts or big, ongoing fights, conflict can make a household feel incredibly tense. Does it seem like your family has a hard time communicating? Do you wish you could ease the tension but don’t know how? If you feel this way, you aren’t alone. As ...
  • What It Looks Like to Meaningfully Advocate for Your LGBTQIA+ Child
    As a parent, you want to be there to guide your child through every obstacle. However, it isn’t always easy to know how to be there for your child. If you are a parent of an LGBTQIA+ child, you may be particularly unsure about how to guide them. Your uncertainty isn’t necessarily out of ...
  • Why Online Therapy? – Consider 5 Benefits of Virtual Sessions (STWP Blog Posts for Nancy DeLamater)
    Sometimes, the thought of going to in-person therapy sessions can feel way too intimidating. You might worry that once you arrive at the office, you’ll be too nervous to open up. Perhaps you’re struggling to simply leave your house at the moment due to depression or anxiety. Or maybe you simply live far ...
  • Exploring What it Means to Reparent Yourself and Finally Heal
    How many times in your life have you wished you could have a do-over? Well, there actually are some times that you have the power to take certain matters of personal history into your own hands. If you’re like so many others, you may not look back fondly on your childhood. Particularly if your ...
  • Dare Not to Compare
    It’s human nature to partake in some kind of “social referencing”. Simply put, it’s easy to look at the lives of other people and compare them to your own.  This isn’t a new practice. Comparison has been going on since the beginning of time. Unfortunately, it can fuel feelings of jealousy. But, it can ...
  • How to Embrace Grief and Find Your Peace
    Close relationships with loved ones provide life with much of its meaning. Humans thrive on emotional intimacy and the bonds it creates. When we get married and have children, we invest the best and biggest parts of ourselves into those people. Our parents and siblings also provide essential connections. Our very identities are often ...
  • Fighting in Circles? – How to Stop “Familiar” Fights
    One of the most surprising and revelatory benefits of therapy is getting busted on your patterns. This may not sound awesome but it can be the catalyst for some serious change. Everyone wants to be happier but they may not accept (or even see) how they sabotage that goal. Take fighting your partner, for ...
  • Transition Your Therapy Practice from Insurance-Based to Private Pay, Part II: Ending Your Relationship with Insurance Panels
    If you’ve been thinking about how to end your relationship with insurance panels, you’ve probably heard plenty of talk about how such a move is “not possible.” Part I of this series set that record straight along with listing the pro and cons of both managed care and fee-for-service. So, if you’ve now decided ...
  • When Anxious Thoughts Take Over: How to Rein in Rumination
    There are good reasons why “runaway train” is a popular metaphor for anything that can’t be reined in. A runaway train has no conductor, it’s gaining momentum, and it gets more dangerous with each passing moment. That said, while your anxiety may feel like this at times, it is not really beyond your ...
  • How Mindfulness Can Relieve Anxiety and Mental Stress
    There is no shortage of anxiety and mental stress these days. There is also no shortage of advice (often unsolicited) for dealing with anxiety and mental stress. Many folks mean well but sometimes you can end up feeling invalidated. If this sounds familiar, it might be time to get down to basics. When it ...
  • Effective Couples/Marriage Counseling: Why Timing Is So Important (STWP Blog Post for David Wachsman)
    They say that “timing is everything.” It’s a true statement that applies to so many situations in life. When to switch careers, buy a home, invest in the stock market, etc. And it also applies to marriages. Of course, there’s popping the question for your engagement, for example. Yet, what about when you’re well into your marriage and ...
  • How Empathetic Listening Changes Conversations
    Feeling heard and understood is important to most of us. We want to know that the people we communicate with “get us.” Too often, we leave a conversation with a sense that we never really broke through the surface. That what we wanted to share (or what was shared with us) was not effectively ...
  • How to Reclaim Your Calm During High-Anxiety Moments
    Staying calm during moments of anxiety isn’t always effortless. The state of the world right now is already uncertain and stressful. Adding more “crisis” moments on top of it can make it difficult to stay in control of your fears.  That’s especially true if you already struggle with bouts of anxiety.  Unfortunately, high-anxiety moments can ...
  • Fighting = Yelling or Avoiding

    It’s not unusual for me to ask couples that come to me for counseling some version of this question: “How do you fight?” Equally as unique is when they reply: “We don’t fight.” At this point, I realize I need to offer a better explanation of what I mean by “fight.” I define fighting ...
  • Pandemic Pressures: How You Can Stay Close and Navigate Stressors Together
    Is the pandemic becoming a real problem inside your relationship? It okay to admit it. You’re not at all alone. Most of us navigating COVID-19 with significant others are itching to share what we’re feeling too. The truth is that, right now, the pressures on our relationships are strange and disquieting. Pandemics don’t happen ...
  • How You Can Start Healing From Sexual Trauma
    If you’re a victim of sexual trauma, healing may seem like a long and difficult journey ahead. For many victims, the most challenging part of recovery is knowing where to start. Sexual assault is an incredibly intimate violation, and there is no right or wrong way to begin your healing process. The first and ...
  • 6 Ways EMDR Can Help You Live A More Positive Life
    In 2020 more than ever, we’re inundated with “positive” messages. On the surface, this is a good and necessary thing. That said, staying positive requires more than mantras and social media memes. You can have positive moments and positive interactions but sustaining that mindset requires focused work. A great start in that direction is ...
  • Are You A Loving Partner? 5 Basic and Effective Ways to Do Better
    Love is a feeling. It’s also a goal, a dream, and a gift. But it goes much deeper than that. To be a consistently loving partner requires a commitment to a process. It’s not a finish line. You don’t graduate into a state of “loving.” Instead, you wake up each day and wipe ...
  • Couples, How to Have Meaningful Conversations Despite COVID-19
    During these times of COVID-19, it’s not hard for conversations to get a little boring between you and your partner. Before the pandemic, in the evening, it was easier to ask about their day. That’s because you both spent eight hours apart from each other. If you’re like many couples, though, you’re together all the time ...
  • How Avoidance Leads to Increased Suffering
    Imagine that you are a student back in school. Perhaps you knew that you would have a big term paper due on a specific date at the beginning of the semester. Naturally, you spent weeks preparing your research and writing your paper. You even had it completed a week before the due date! Or did ...
  • 4 Strategies to Help You & Your Partner Through Covid-19
    The COVID-19 pandemic has thrown everyone into a new world. While it’s had many effects on you, doubtless one of the largest impacts you’ve seen has been on the state of your relationships. Social distancing has probably meant much less time with friends and extended family, leaving you feeling lonely and missing them. But ...
  • Divorce Recovery Takes Time, Be Kind to Yourself!
    When you’re going through a divorce, it’s perfectly normal to feel a variety of emotions. One moment, you might be sad or feeling down. The next, you might be angry or frustrated.  Even if your divorce was amicable, going through a rollercoaster of emotions can be expected.  As a result, you might be harder on ...
  • 3 Tips for a Strong Sexual Connection to Your Partner Despite Coronavirus-Related Stress
    The last several months have left us all feeling more stressed-out and frazzled. We now must juggle working from home full-time while also navigating a pandemic. With all that going on, it makes sense then that the sexual connection that you have with your partner might not be what it was pre-pandemic. After all, stress ...
  • Stressed Out Parent? How You Can Keep Your Cool When It Counts
    Stress is perfectly normal and incredibly common for all of us. When you’re a parent, however, you might feel as though the stress never ends. Unfortunately, that can sometimes lead to lashing out at your family when you don’t mean to.  Children are often challenging. Any parent would say that. And, while some stress ...
  • When the Entire Family Is Stressed – How to Cope
    To say we are living in an uncertain time would be an understatement. People deal with stress regularly — but the COVID-19 pandemic has exacerbated tension for almost everyone in various ways. Maybe you or your spouse lost their job. Or perhaps you’re getting used to working from home. Maybe someone in your family ...
  • How to Develop Coping Skills for Anxiety – 4 Strategies
    Anxiety is one of the most common mental health conditions across the globe. In most cases, it won’t merely “go away” on its own. Most people need the help of mental health professionals to treat anxiety. Unfortunately, people who don’t find ways of treating it can find themselves somewhat debilitated by it. It’s ...
  • What it Really Looks Like to Tear Down Racial Walls
    Racism takes many forms. Recognizing and addressing this reality is a monumental task. But where do you start? How can you be a force for justice when everyone seems so ready to fight and divide? In order to tear down racial walls, it’s important to see them accurately first and take personal responsibility ...
  • When Past Trauma Is Plaguing Your Life, How EMDR Can Remove Mental Blockage
    Does it feel that no matter what you do, there doesn’t seem to be a way for you to move past mental blocks caused by trauma? Those events that you had to endure still have a tight grip on you, even years later. You realize that you need to heal in order to move forward ...
  • Overcoming Internal and External Relationship Stress: 5 Tips for Finding Positive Solutions
    Stress can be the downfall of any relationship. Even the strongest couples are negatively affected by stress. Sometimes, you may be dealing with issues in your personal life that end up having an impact on your relationship. On other occasions, you and your partner may need to consider why your behavior and habits ...
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