• Understanding the Teen Brain: Not a Child, Not Yet an Adult
    As we enter adulthood, we tend to forget the challenges we faced as teenagers. We often look back on our teenage years, remembering them a little more positively than we did as we went through them. Once you become a parent yourself and start parenting a teen, it becomes harder to remember what ...
  • February Week 1 – Is It Bad If My Partner and I Fight During Therapy?
    Everything seems to turn into a fight lately. Coming home from work late. Dishes in the sink. Not picking up something from the store. Misunderstanding something that was said the day before. Forgetting about an upcoming date on the calendar. You and your partner seem to fight on a daily basis. When you first started dating, ...
  • February Week 1 – How to Reconcile Financial Disagreements in a Healthy Way
    Financial disagreements are quite common for couples. Fighting about money is a major cause of separation or divorce. Meanwhile, there remains a lot of secrecy and shame around the topic. We each perceive financial issues in our own unique way — typically influenced by our childhood. This means we will inevitably cash with ...
  • When in Life Does OCD Develop?
    Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a chronic and common condition — impacting at least six million people in the U.S. As the name implies, OCD involves the presence of obsessions (usually a fear of doing harm or being harmed) and compulsions (the rituals used to calm the obsession). Effective treatments exist but, generally speaking, ...
  • 4 Easy Ways To Deal With Anxiety As A Teen
    Being a teenager can throw a lot of things your way. You’re changing schools, making new friends, taking harder classes, and on top of all of that, your body is changing as well. There’s added stress of balancing homework, tests, extracurricular activities, maintaining relationships, and maybe even having a job. There are added pressures that ...
  • How to Tell If You Are Going Through a Quarter-Life Crisis?
    Thanks to pop culture, there’s a general consensus about how casual and fun life is in your 20s. It’s before the responsibilities — and aches and pains — set in. Or at least that’s what we’re made to think. In reality, all phases of life contain ups and downs. That’s why the concept ...
  • Healing From Past Trauma? 3 Ways To Begin
    Who knew letting go would be this difficult? If only it were as simple as just slapping on a Band-Aid and calling it a day. Wouldn’t that be nice, right? Unfortunately, trauma can’t be healed with a Band-Aid. The trauma didn’t happen overnight, which means you won’t be fully recovered over the course of just ...
  • What Is Inherited Family Trauma?
    “It’s not you, it’s me.” You’ve probably heard this phrase at least once in your life before. Possibly you heard it on a TV show or it could have popped up during a movie. Or maybe one of your friends or classmates said it when you were younger. This “it’s not you, it’s me” phrase ...
  • How Are Adults Affected by Childhood Trauma?
    Some people have the luxury of growing up, while others are forced to survive. Adults who experienced trauma as children often pride themselves on their independence and ability to stick things out. In many cases they’ve suffered through physical or mental abuse, and the uncertainties of alcoholic or otherwise neglectful caregivers—what else could ...
  • Are EMDR Intensives More Beneficial Than Regular EMDR?
    If you’re on this page, reading this blog post, it’s probably safe to assume you have at least a high level overview of what EMDR is—an action-oriented, results-driven therapy that works to heal the damage traumatic experiences leave behind. EMDR therapy uses bilateral stimulation to sharpen links between various areas of the brain, ...
  • How To Tell If You Are Suffering From Seasonal Depression
    Seasonal depression impacts millions of people. Some people simply get the “winter blues” for a few months each year, while others struggle with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and deal with debilitating symptoms.  If you tend to feel “down” when the winter season rolls around each year, you could be one of those people. Maybe ...
  • How Do Emotional Affairs Affect Male Depression?
    You may not have ever associated emotional affairs with male depression before. But the link exists and requires our attention. At least one-quarter of men struggle with depression. (Because males are less likely to seek help, the number is surely higher.) Meanwhile, emotional affairs are way more common than most people realize. Studies ...
  • Tips For Tuning Into What You Want In A Relationship
    You’re swiping left and right on different dating apps. The profiles that are filling up your screen appear to have parts and pieces of what you’re looking for, but no one seems to be a 100% match. You’re trying to picture what you want in a partner and a relationship, but you can’t quite picture ...
  • Can Someone Really Have a Quarter-Life Crisis?
    The short answer is yes. The more useful answer takes a little longer to articulate. Firstly, like its more popular cousin — midlife crisis — this syndrome is not about any exact time period. Individuals can go through soul-searching at any age. However, in general, this type of stress often falls into some ...
  • 4 Ways To Recover From Emotional Trauma
    Trauma is a result. When someone endures or witnesses a horrific event, there is the potential for them to experience trauma. Such events may include neglect, abuse, assault, loss, violence, illness, and so much more. Whether or not we are traumatized depends on several specific factors. What matters most is how we experience ...
  • How Does A Divorce Impact A Man?
    Divorce is one of the most stressful life events someone can go through. Nobody plans for it—marriage is assumed to be forever. Divorces are emotionally draining, distressing, and oftentimes introduce chaos that replaces routines. While women and men are both affected by the upheaval of divorce, men can have unique issues that aren’t ...
  • What Does It Mean to Be an LGBTQIA+ Ally?
    The LGBTQIA+ community has seen a monumental growth in the last decade when it comes to equality and acceptance. Unfortunately, they still have a long way to go.  There will always be hate and bigotry in the world, and as long as they exist, people in underrepresented groups will need help and support. That’s ...
  • Why Is Intellectual Chemistry Important?
    Make a list of the attributes you desire in a partner. How far did you get before you wrote down “intellectual chemistry”? Of course, there is no single trait that automatically trumps the rest. But being on the same mental wavelength can feel magical. It contributes to healthy communication. You have such wonderful ...
  • How to Tell If You’re Depressed or Just Sad
    You haven’t felt like yourself lately. In fact, if you really think about it, it’s been weeks, maybe even months. How are you supposed to know what the difference is? Just because you’re sad doesn’t mean you’re depressed, but if you’re depressed, there’s a high likelihood that you’re also sad. You’re not trying to be dramatic, ...
  • 6 Secrets to Motivate Your Unmotivated Teen
    To many adults, almost all teenagers look unmotivated. This is not fair, of course. It’s a very unique time in every person’s life. So many changes, expectations, and hormones are at work. Also, many teens are quite motivated to do things like play video games, flirt with classmates, listen to music, etc. Therefore, ...
  • How Do You Test For ADHD as an Adult?
    It’s estimated that about 4.4% of adults in the U.S. have been diagnosed with ADHD. However, many of them were diagnosed as children. When most people think of the condition, young people come to mind. ADHD is often referred to as a “children’s disorder.” However, there’s a good chance that statistic would rise ...
  • Meditation Techniques for Calming Anxiety
    Anxiety is the most common mental health condition in the world. Calming ourselves has long been a concern for humans. That helps to explain why meditation was created. Yes, of course, it plays a role in deepening our understanding of the world we live in. However, the connection between meditation and mindfulness is ...
  • Dating Takes Time—5 Tips to Fit Dating into Your Life
    Life gets rather busy and can go by in a flash. Work full time. Exercise daily. Visit your family. Socialize with your friends. Do all the adulting things. Drink water. Get eight hours of sleep. Don’t forget to take some personal time. Fitting all that into a week, let alone a day, can be ...
  • The Dos & Don’ts of Family Communication
    Some people joke about having a “dysfunctional” family. Others say they can’t speak to anyone else the way they speak with their family members. While there’s some fun in having friendly family banter and unique ways of communicating, there are also some red flags that should be avoided. Every member of your family is ...
  • How to Treat Depression Without Medication
    Depression is one of the most common mental health conditions in the world. People deal with different symptoms and different severities. But, no matter what, it can take a toll on your overall quality of life. Because so many people struggle with depression, it should come as no surprise that there are plenty ...
  • What Life After Divorce Looks Like For Women
    Going through a divorce is never easy. Even when things end amicably, it’s still a “loss,” and it’s okay to go through a period of grieving. For women, life after divorce can be very different. A lot of it depends on the changes you agree to with your former spouse, but you might ...
  • How to Recognize if Your Child is Depressed
    Depression in children is more common than one would think. It’s also just as dangerous as in adults. In many cases, how a mental illness manifests in adults differs from how it presents in children. While it is true that some behaviors are unique to children with depression, most of them are similar ...
  • Contamination OCD: Obsessions, Compulsions, & Treatment
    Thanks in large part to popular culture, most people have heard of or are aware of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Unfortunately, the subtypes of OCD are less familiar. Contamination OCD is one of the many different subtypes of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Most people assume that contamination OCD is a fear of dirt and germs, but it’s ...
  • Signs & Symptoms of Body Dysmorphia
    Have you ever looked in the mirror and not really recognized the person staring back at you? You’re very much aware that it’s you and your reflection, but you feel like you look different. Years ago, you could eat or drink anything without it sticking to your body, but now it feels like nothing ...
  • Navigating the Stress of Having to Hide Your Sexuality
    The closet is a difficult place. There are millions of LGBTQ+ people all over the world who are forced to hide their sexuality for fear of discrimination, violence, and losing family members. If you’re in a situation where you can’t be open about being queer, you’re probably feeling increased anxiety. Learning to cope ...
  • How to Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety
    Romantic connections can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster. There are highs and lows—moments where everything is great and moments where you are just over it all. Every couple, at some point, goes through just as many negatives as they do positives. Relationships change over time, just like we do as individuals. This is an ...
  • How Social Media Affects Eating Disorders 
    Facebook is less than two decades old, but it feels like it’s been around forever. In roughly 15 years or so, social media has deeply embedded itself into our lives—for better and for worse. At least 80 percent of Americans use social media on a daily basis. This reality can severely impact our ...
  • How to Overcome Public Speaking Anxiety
    Anxiety isn’t a one-size-fits-all issue. Some people deal with it all of the time. Others have very specific types triggered by certain settings and situations—like social anxiety. For some, anxiety is rooted in public speaking. It’s perfectly normal for most people to feel “butterflies” when speaking or reciting something in front of a ...
  • When Depression & Cultural Expectations Collide
    On the surface, it may appear simple. Depression is a disorder that can impact any individual—regardless of race, ethnicity, class, age, sex, or sexual preference. Technically, this is true. However, cultural expectations can very much influence the entire experience. The risk factors, symptoms, and treatment options are similar in any geographical area. The ...
  • 6 Red Flags to Look For When Dating
    Maybe you’ve gone on a couple of dates with someone new, and you’re wondering whether you are a good match. Or perhaps you’ve gone through a breakup recently, and although part of you is eager to start dating again, you’re also nervous that you’ll miss red flags early on and end up in ...
  • How EMDR & Brainspotting Differ
    EMDR and Brainspotting have both seen a rise in popularity over the last several years. On the surface, they have similar characteristics. They can also both be used to help release trauma from your memories and eventually overcome the effects of that trauma. While both methods can be effective, they’re also more different than ...
  • How Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy Helps With Trauma
    If you have experienced a traumatic event, then you know just how all-encompassing the aftermath can feel. Unfortunately, sometimes the hardest part is yet to come. You may seek out different treatments, multiple forms of therapy, and new medication routines, all to no avail.  If that resonates with you, I want you to know ...
  • Part 2: How to Deal With Extreme Family Dependency
    You can’t choose your family. It’s fair even to say that you can’t choose what qualities and characteristics you inherit from your family. Things like mental health disorders and codependency patterns can be passed along from generation to generation without skipping a beat. Extreme family dependency entails thinking, behaviors, and feelings. On the ...
  • How Does the Gottman Method Help Relationships? January Week 4
    The Gottman method has seen a steady stream of popularity for years. It’s a science-backed approach to helping, healing, and restoring relationships, and one of the reasons why it continues to stand the test of time is that it’s so effective.  That effectiveness shouldn’t come as a surprise. It’s rooted in research and focuses ...
  • What Is Brainspotting and How Is It Helpful? January Week 4
    Have you heard of brainspotting? It’s a therapy technique similar to EMDR, developed by Dr. David Grant. He noticed in his EMDR patients that their eyes would often return to the same spot when remembering bad memories and sought to figure out why. The result was brainspotting. When looking for what kind of therapy ...
  • How Women Can Find Safe Spaces Online – Sarah Moore, 1-4
    For women, it can be tough to find safe spaces online. Lots of women turn to the internet to find places where they talk to other women about their problems, get life advice, and simply share their experiences with people who can relate. Online groups can be especially important for women who live ...
  • Why Is Parenting Your Partner Unhelpful? – Paul Austin, 1-4
    Being concerned for your partner is a natural impulse. Often, it’s normal and healthy. But if you obsess over your partner’s behavior and micromanage their habits, your relationship is heading into unhealthy territory. For a relationship to be successful, both people need to be self-sufficient and keep their own identities. Parenting your partner crosses ...
  • How Can You Prepare for EMDR? Helene Shute 1/4
    Unfortunately, we cannot control our circumstances. Fortunately, however, what we can control is how we feel about the situation. Overcoming your trauma and taking back your power is a great way to change your viewpoint of a bad situation.  One of the best ways to do this is by seeking out therapy. There are ...
  • 4 Common Hurdles Neurodivergent Couples Face – January Week 4
    Every relationship is unique. Each emerges from the union of personalities, personal histories, hopes, and fears that partners bring to the table. Neurodivergent couples are no different, but their perspectives and modes of communication sometimes require a degree of additional care in how partners approach each other. Neurodivergent couples have to be aware that ...
  • How Meditation Can Help Anxiety – January Week 4
    Are you feeling overwhelmed because of stress? There are many remedies and coping mechanisms that can help you deal with anxiety. Meditation has been scientifically proven to reduce stress, depression, and other mental health issues. If you’re struggling with stress and anxiety, meditation is a soothing practice that you can do from the comfort ...
  • How ADHD & Anxiety Overlap in Children
    Anxiety and ADHD have a lot of overlap in adults, and that’s often the case for children too. But while the symptoms are incredibly similar, the reason behind them changes greatly depending on whether they’re brought on by anxiety or ADHD. It can make it difficult to know if you’re struggling with anxiety, ...
  • Is Health Anxiety Normal?
    Prior to 2020, we didn’t hear much about health anxiety. Did it exist? Absolutely. But it was one of those things where it wasn’t as common to know anything about it. Then the pandemic hit. Not only did it completely transform the whole entire world, but it changed the way we live as well. Now, ...
  • What Does An EMDR Therapist Do?
    New approaches to therapy are emerging all the time. As our society and world change, so do the issues we go through. With therapy, we can’t adapt to our client’s issues if we also aren’t changing how we approach them. Throughout our lives, we all go through some complex situations. One of the most ...
  • What Is EMDR And How Does It Work?
    These days, more people are seeing the benefits of therapy. The last few years have been hard for everyone on a national and global scale. We have gone through a lot as a whole and of course, in our individual lives. Most people have basic knowledge about traditional therapy. Sometimes also called talk therapy. ...
  • What Should You Do If You Can’t Remember Trauma During EMDR?
    EMDR has been used as a popular treatment method for trauma for years. Its effectiveness has boosted its notoriety. Not only is it a great way to dive deeper into the trauma you’ve experienced, but an effective and safe way to overcome it by putting you in control.  But, the EMDR experience can be ...